Welcome to the daily devotional we have. This is a learning process for me as I go along and I hope you can join me. I will pick a devotional on www.bible.com (feel free to go there and pick the same reading plan) and be posting the verse(s), devotional, and my own personal commentary. Feel free to leave your own commentary in the comments as I would love to read your guys thoughts. Also, I will have a video that relates to the devotional.
This devotional is titled “Living With Integrity”. It is 7 days long. I use the ESV bible but feel free to use the version of your choosing.
“Do not lie to one another, seeing that you have put off the old self with its practices and have put on the new self, which is being renewed in knowledge after the image of its creator.”
Do you “shade the truth” with your spouse? It’s common behavior for many couples, and most excuse it as “no big deal.” But when you find out what it could reveal about your marriage, you might change your mind.
It looks something like this: A husband tells his wife that, yes, he did run an errand she asked him to – when, in reality, he didn’t. Or a wife buys a new pair of shoes but fibs about the price, so her husband believes they were cheaper than they really were.
The question is: Why do husbands and wives lie to each other about such trivial matters? The answer for many couples is rather dismissive, ranging from “to avoid conflict” to “it’s just easier.” In other words, they put a positive spin on what is, actually, a deeper issue.
Spouses often lie when they feel there’s not enough safety in the relationship to be honest. So, rather than handling situations with understanding, maybe a spouse reacts with anger. Or, instead of compassion, they offer insults or sarcasm. It’s a breakdown in the relationship’s trust and intimacy. In some cases, it may mean those traits were never present in the first place.
So the next time you and your spouse feel compelled to lie to one another, it could be an indication your relationship needs a little work. Remember Paul’s reminder to put on your “new self” and to take off the old through Christ. When we come to God in our shortcomings, He doesn’t respond in anger or by shaming us. Instead, He welcomes us with grace, mercy, and love. A healed marriage can reflect the same Christ-like spirit.
As I talked about a few days ago, I used to lie to my ex. I have no issue telling people the truth, however with her I felt like I needed to because I thought her to be superior to me and lying seemed to make me seem better. I just really hated her lecturing me. It bugged me to no extent. While I have never been married myself, I can feel for the men and women who do lie. But if you truly love someone and they love you too, then they deserve the truth. In the long run it is the correct decision. You can sleep easier knowing you have nothing to hide. Even if that sleep is on the couch.