My husband had surgery three weeks ago. A normal spouse wouldn’t have looked forward to their loved one having to go under the knife, but I have to say, I was pretty excited when I first heard of the procedure. Particularly about the corresponding healing window.
It was part of the doctor’s orders for him to be out of work for at least thirty days. This meant he would be at home with us, his wife and child, for a whole month. This excited me greatly. He’d been working night and day, juggling his duties at the company he is hired at and managing his own business. Of course, I felt bad for him having to undergo surgery (a very uncomfortable and awkward procedure at that…I’ll spare you the details), but after talking about it, we both began to see it as an opportunity to make up for lost time with one another.
I like to remind myself there’s always a silver lining. God has a reason for everything, and I feel His reason for having my husband need this procedure was to grant us some quality time as a family. We have grown so much as a husband and wife and as parents during all the talks we’ve been able to have.
Thinking this over, I’m reminded of the early days of our engagement. It was 2013, and I had recently purchased a 2010 Hyundai Elantra (my beloved Meadow, as I called him—yes, my cars are boys). While driving one of my bridesmaids home one day, I got rear-ended at a stoplight. Long story short, the car was totaled, and I’d found myself without a vehicle for some time.
Normally this would have been a heck of an obstacle to overcome—and it was. However, there was a lot of good that came out of this tragedy (gone but not forgotten, my beautiful Meadow—insert crying emoji here).
My car payment, minus insurance, was roughly $250 dollars per month. With my student loans, phone payment, and a wedding to pay for, this would have been an expense that would have dragged me down to the depths of debt, from which I would have had great, great difficulty surfacing. I was able to find a decent replacement for him at less than half of the cost per month.
Having the first car in itself was a lesson in money management, as it was the first car I had purchased under my name, and it was a blessing to have such a new car at the time. Heck, it was a blessing to even have an automobile in the first place! However, the Lord gave, and the Lord tooketh away (Job 1:21), but all for good reason.
While my husband, the sole breadwinner of our new little family, is out of work for at least another week, I’m less worried about how we will make our payments, or of any other issues that may come our way. One, because my husband has always been a great money-manager, and is very level-headed in many situations, but more importantly, because of the following passage:
“And not only so, but we glory in tribulations also: knowing that tribulation worketh patience; and patience, experience; and experience, hope: and hope maketh not ashamed; because the love of God is shed abroad in our hearts by the Holy Ghost which is given unto us” (Romans 5:3-5).
These verses make me think of Yoda in The Empire Strikes Back, when he warns Luke that “Fear leads to anger, anger leads to hate, hate leads to suffering.” A valid lesson in itself, but Romans 5:3-5 takes it a step further.
Through our struggles and challenges, we become stronger and better equipped for fulfilling God’s intention for our lives (something I touched on in my article about when my son was first born). If our lives were perfectly happy and easy all of the time, we would never grow. God gives us trials so we can be better prepared for the next part of our journey with Him. We need to listen for the lesson, and count our blessings in the face of all our tribulations.
So, while it may not be the most enjoyable thing for my husband to go through, we both know this surgery and lengthy healing was part of God’s plan, and there’s something to be learned from it. For now, I will enjoy and thank God for the blessing of having him home, healthy and healed, a little while longer.