Young people, listen to me.
Let me attempt to save you from years of confusion, frustration, and disappointment. I’m talking about sex.
In today’s world, you have access to literally millions upon millions of bits of information. Some great, and some detrimental to you. If you want to be married and enjoy your spouse, please heed my words.
Pornography is killing marriages. Specifically, your sex life within your marriage. It’s not just the Fireproof version of pornography addiction–the one where you’re already married but hooked on watching porn. No, it’s the kind that you are watching now!
If you think that because you’re single that one day, when you are married and “allowed” to have sex, that your desire for pornography will just fade away, you are wrong.
What you are partaking in now is setting you up for utter failure. What you see done in those videos is NOT REAL! Girls that look like models with enhanced “features” and exciting facial expressions are actresses. Guys that are in amazing shape and well-endowed are actors. They are paid to perform sex on-screen in a way that is enticing and exciting but not reality.
When the cameras stop rolling, some of those actors shed real tears. Their hearts are depleted and they are left without hope or self-esteem. They, too, grew up as innocent children, with hopes and dreams of being astronauts and doctors. Now, because of some pretty terrible life events, they destroy their own bodies while you destroy yours.
See, your spouse will have imperfections. He or she will never match up to the actors you see on the screen. Sex will never be as enthralling as it is watching it, because they are acting. You will never recreate those scenarios the way you want, and you will be confused and tormented that it’s the fault of your spouse and that you need to “spice” up those intimate times. You won’t be satisfied.
You, now, are setting yourself up for the rest of your life. You are connecting thoughts and emotions to images that are unobtainable. You are taking what God intended to be perfect and beautiful between a husband and wife and minimizing it to a fantasy that you replay in your mind.
The power and draw of pornography is haunting, and one that is very difficult to shake. You will find yourself battling with those images, reliving them in your head at inopportune times. You can start now, today, by turning those videos off and focusing on things that are Holy and Righteous.
Your spouse will thank you for it, and you will be glad that you remained pure. It’s not an easy feat. I don’t deny that. It’s going to take some prayer, fasting, and more prayer and fasting, because the temptation will not let up easily. However, you can be confident in the Lord that He will give you the strength to see you out of that temptation. It’s not too late to start!
Do not allow yourself to enjoy a short stint of pleasure that will, in turn, destroy the possibility of a beautiful, godly sex life with your spouse. I am sure it’s been said before by many, but if I knew then what I know now, I would have made some pretty huge changes in my life growing up.
“Father, I pray right now that you release the bondage of pornography on those reading this–that you free their hearts and minds of the enemy’s grasp. Sanctify them and set them apart from the world. Lead them not into temptation and deliver them from all evil, Amen”.
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